Working on
a dream project is always temporary. The “project” might be a relationship, a
work project, an opera etc. When it ends, it leaves a gap of empty space in
you. The people/person you got really close to as a colleague, friend or lover
are now FORMER friends etc. - Shit, that
feels empty.
When that
happens its good to ask yourself these questions:
1) Did you enjoy the moment and the happiness
of what you were doing all along?
2) Did you withdraw inside a little (or
a lot) in order to save yourself from the sudden transition to emptiness that
would eventually follow?
3) Which of the above is the best
option?
Perhaps it’s
a good thing to know that all good things have an end, because then we appreciate
them more… That is, if we don’t get so overwhelmed with panic and fear of losing
that we can’t actually enjoy what’s there!
This is where the fine art of “Letting
Go” comes into play. There is by the way a very good handbook on that written
by Eckhart Tolle: The Power of Now.
When all
comes down, everything is temporary: We all die someday, every person you know
is yours “on loan”, even the Earth will not exist in the universe forever – but
hopefully we shall not be here to witness the earth crumble!
So what is
there to do, other than to make the most of the time we get and the things we
experience? I do my very best to live to the maximum every day, embracing and
accepting whatever situation I’m in right now, sharing the joy or sadness with
those around. During a crisis and great heartache I realized this:
I’d rather
have a heart that hurts than a heart that is numb and not feeling anything at
all.
This way, at least, I know that I’m alive.
"Maria Magdalena" Art photo by Rolando Diaz
Happiness
isn’t the absence of pain. Sometimes joy and pain are strangely entwined, and sometimes
this actually makes the feeling of joy much stronger! No human life comes
totally without suffering to some degree, emotional or physical. The feeling of
pain or sadness from a loss is somehow also good, because it proves that it meant
something: Whatever just ended had an impact on you.
So, when the
end of a “project” is up, it’s time to embrace the emptiness/sadness/hurt and
accept it… THEN go looking for the next work project/ love/ friendship!
I feel,
therefore I know that I’m alive. – and that’s pretty awesome, right?
Here's a little music by Verdi with a great deal of pain in it.
Strange how that can relieve a troubled heart ;-)
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